Feeling angry is a natural response to certain life experiences. It’s a basic emotion; occurring at times when we come under attack, feel deceived, insulted or frustrated. Anger helps to relieve built-up energy and tension. While we have learnt that expressing anger can be a healthy way of managing the emotion, when excessive, it can become a problem. Excessive anger may even be a symptom of more complex issues; it can be a symptom of, and contribute to, certain mental health problems and sometimes make existing problems worse.
When out of control, anger can become destructive. It can significantly impact quality of life – affecting your relationships, your career and overall well-being. However, there are ways to control your anger more effectively and lessen the impact it’s having on your daily life.
When we express anger, we use a variety of conscious and unconscious processes to deal with the feelings. The way in which we control these, however, is what determines whether our anger is healthy or unhealthy. When expressing anger assertively, in a non-aggressive but constructive way, you can assert your needs without hurting the people around you. There are many ways you can express your anger in an unhealthy way, and many of these have negative repercussions. Often we suppress, convert and redirect our anger – but this can negatively affect health and well-being. If you find it difficult to manage your anger, you may put others down and find yourself being overly critical. You may feel irritable, grumpy and hostile. By recognizing and accepting anger problems, you can start to understand how to use the emotion in a safe and healthy way
Experiencing trauma can be distressing and often leads to overwhelming feeling and thoughts about the traumatic events. One may find themselves questioning their beliefs and values whilst sabotaging their meaning and expectations of trust. Trauma can be psychological, physical and emotional, where the individual may experience dissociation, shock, low mood, loss of self-esteem, anxiety, emotional detachment, disorientation, withdrawal, denial, helplessness and much more. Delayed reactions can also include flashbacks, unstable emotions, anger, betrayal, distrust, guilt and more. There is a tendency to defend, cut ourselves off or even project our experiences elsewhere against the painful memories of trauma. The goal is to work with the client to identify, accept and release painful emotions from the trauma while focusing on self-care. It is to jointly work towards being able to live in the present without the overwhelming thoughts and feelings of the past.
PTSD Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder can develop after the traumatic event has been experienced. The symptoms of trauma can continue and can interfere with the individual’s view of the world, behaviour, trust in their thoughts and emotions, relationships, wellbeing, value and belief system as well as faith and religion.
Complex Trauma can occur when there are repeated experiences of traumatic events that have occurred in the vital stages of childhood development.